Showing posts with label My Wedding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label My Wedding. Show all posts

Tuesday, 19 March 2019

Shotgun wedding before I took my husbands kidney

I secretly married my partner on the 24th June 2016. We were a perfect match!

My husband and I were in the process of him donating a kidney to me (I have PKD Polycystic Kidney Disease). Paul had to undergo all sorts of different tests, to determine if he was healthy enough to go through it all. Thankfully everything went well, we were almost a perfect match and we were going to have our operations in July.

I went to see the surgeon, but he said I needed to lose weight, at least two and a half stone. Even though we were disappointed the operation had been put back to November, we still went ahead with the wedding.

"Till death do us part"


My husband had this crazy idea that he was going to die during the operation, so he wanted us to make everything legal for the sake of our children. That monies would be safe and my mother in law Leanne wouldn't try to come in and take any money away from me and our children. The strange thing was, he almost did die due to being pumped full of Penicillin when he is allergic to it!

We need a shotgun ...


With everything that we were going through and my ill health through kidney failure, we didn't want this to become a huge stressful affair, as we were already stressed up to the eyeballs as it was. So we decided that we should only tell our children, parents and siblings what was happening. I knew that if I told one friend the news would spread like wildfire and I couldn't cope with all the potential stress that could come with it. Friends and family might be upset some had been invited and others not so we decided that if would be far simpler if we didn't invite anyone (beyond immediate family) that way, no one could be offended.

The mother-in-law wasn't invited but she came anyway!

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My mum came round the night before the 'shotgun' wedding and did my nails for me and I went to my friend's house at 7am on the day and she curled my hair for me, it looked stunning. We were married in a registry office and it was the first time I had seen my mother-in-law in 18 months, as we'd had a huge row about her saying "you're all like wolves, after my money!'' Leanne as I said earlier was a major reason for getting married, as she eat sleeps and breathes money and would throw us all under the bus for a chance at instant cash.

I wore a black and white dress which is a huge change for me, as I've lived in trousers/leggings for the past 20+years. Paul and our son wore suits and our daughter had a pretty little dress for the occasion and she was so excited about it all. Janine had desperately wanted us to marry for years and to have the same surname as us. I never changed my surname though, as I wanted to keep mine, my surname belongs to me, it's all I've ever known and I belong to no one.

The ceremony was very simple and quick, which suited us, we are not the type of people who like pomp and ceremony. Just having family there was more than enough.

All's well that ends well


We took photos outside on mobiles, so the quality wasn't that great, but I still love them. After that we all went for a meal at a restaurant and came home afterwards. After the busy day and stress of it all, I came home to sleep, as my body and mind were shattered. Almost two years have passed and believe it or not, I'm still talking to my mother in law!

If I was getting married again, I'd have a black and white wedding theme and maybe I might renew my vows one day and do it all 'proper'.

And for all those brave fellow PKD warriors out there!

Friday, 15 March 2019

Real Life - Medieval Wedding Romance Tintagel

Re-live this romantic love story with author JaneR which climaxed with a medieval wedding at wonderful King Arthur Great Halls Tintagel Cornwall.
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It was love at first sight


"I met my husband to be at an airport in California after working at a Music show. Unbeknown to me he had attended the same show. I remember driving to the airport thinking that even though I had just met hundreds of men over that weekend, not one caught my eye and that I would probably never find "the One" as I must just simply be too picky when it comes to men!!

It was pouring down with rain when I arrived at the airport and to top it all off our flight was delayed for four hours. I entered the waiting area, which was packed with my fellow flight passengers, when I noticed this dirty blond, long haired man sitting next to some round cases reading a book. The War of the Roses! I felt immediately drawn towards him, an internal instinct that told me "there you are".  He felt like someone I had known, someone I had a history with, someone I had loved before. I felt both silly and absolutely overwhelmed.

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With hardly any seats available I, like many others stranded, sat down on the floor close to where he was and started listening to my music. I had a few people approach me that had visited our stand at the show to chat about our product. Close enough to hear us,  I noticed his head coming up a couple of times listening in on my conversations.

After exchanging a few smiles with him I finally summoned enough courage to turn to him and ask what he had in his cases. He told me they were Drum symbols and that he had been working at the same show. This then led to us chatting until the hours simply seemed to fly by and our plane was finally ready to board and take us home.


Parting ways 


The flight was agonising, knowing he was sat in the back of the plane and not being able to continue talking to him. As we landed we bumped into each other again on our way to the baggage claim area, collected our baggage and continued towards the exit.

Now, in all my life I have never asked a man if he would like to go out for a drink, but with this man I did. I gave him my number and as my ride was not here yet, he said he would wait with me. I thanked him and he said that's not a problem as he still believed in chivalry. I remember looking into his eyes and thinking you will be the father of my child.....how mad is that!! Anyway, my lovely friend Patty arrived, I introduced them and we said goodbye. As we walked away, I turned back to look at him just as he turned to look at me and I said to Patty


"That's the man I am going to marry".


Fast forward a few years and we have now sold up and moved to England. He is a musician and had just signed with a band there. Come to find out we both had a passion for everything old and steeped in history, so England was a welcomed change.

He especially was very keen on King Arthur and the Arthurian Legend and called me Lady Jayne right from the beginning of our relationship (...or rather the continuation of something that happened before, in another time, another place.... as that is how we both felt about it).

The first time we visited Tintagel was absolutely magical. We both felt as if we had been here before, it felt familiar, a place we once had known and loved,  just as it felt when we first met.

We walked up to the King Arthur's Castle ruins and then visited the Parish Church of St Materiana , which stands on the cliffs between Trevena and Tintagel Castle. We both knew right away that this is where we would get married. 

It was fate


Our next stop were the King Arthur Great Halls .  Not knowing they existed at the time, we entered what we thought was a Souvenir shop. We soon started talking to the curator of this Souvenir shop as he on seeing my husband to be said " You look like King Arthur".  He went on to tell us all about this so called shop and the Great Halls and urged us to take a tour. We were led into a medieval looking room with grand pictures depicting the story of King Arthur. We were asked to sit down, the lights dimmed and a narrator began to tell the story of the Legend of King Arthur. At one point it was told that he received his sword, Excalibur from the Lady of the Lake, who in this story was called Nineve.

As soon as I heard that name I knew that if I ever would have a daughter I would name her Nineve, the Lady of the Lake. I am pleased to say we were blessed with a beautiful daughter who now carries this beautiful name.

Anyway,  after we the narrator finished,  we took a tour of the Great Halls and were absolutely astonished to see what this ingenious man, Fredrick Thomas Classcock, had built and left for generations to see and marvel at.



Next we went to see the Camelot Castle Hotel, which simply put the icing on the (Wedding) cake. Everything we wanted was right here in this beautiful place called Tintagel.

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To help you plan your perfect Medieval Wedding find below some customizable medieval themed wedding stationery, decorations and costumes!


Medieval Wall Art - Photo Booth Props


Featured here is a wonderful wall tapestry (featuring a vintage print) of medieval knights. This would make a wonderful decoration for your wedding ceremony or reception or as a photo booth back drop!

King Arthur Medieval Knights Jousting Poster
King Arthur Medieval Knights Jousting Poster

Medieval themed wedding invitations

Medieval Scroll Wedding Invitation
Medieval Scroll Wedding Invitation
by LilaEngel

Medieval Bride and Groom Costume Ideas


For medieval wedding clothing you can opt for King and Queen costumes, or a Knight and Lady Guinevere theme or a regular Lord and Lady. Your guests can be similarly dressed but not of course as Kings and Queens!


Medieval wedding - bride costume - queen


Medieval wedding - groom costume - king


Game of Thrones Anyone?

Weddings with a medieval Game of Thrones theme are very popular which is why it is great to have wedding invitations based on that theme!

Thursday, 14 March 2019

My English Beach Wedding and a pick-up truck!

Low budget wedding with a beach, bbq and a pickup truck ..not fancy but a lot of fun!

With our unpredictable weather in the UK a beach wedding can be risky business, but with some beautiful beaches matched with unrivalled lush cliff tops (we have something to thank our rain for) it's not as crazy as it seems.

Myself, I didn't go all the way with a beach wedding, in that the ceremony was held in the local registry office which was situated in a rather beautiful town hall, listed building with amazingly well kept gardens. I married back in the day when having a wedding officiant barefoot on a beach wasn't doable, at least not that I was aware of at that time. So we did the 'deed' in the registry office.

My small wedding party of about 35 guests then made our way via cars and a rusty blue pickup truck (me and my dress fitted easily into the back of it) travelled to the beach!

The weather was far from perfect with clouds and light drizzle, but our unorthodox drive and happy demeanour saw us joyously planted on the sandy/pebbled beach surrounded by lovely rock faces perfect for photos and generally having a bit of random beach fun.

We enjoyed the nature, the views, the sea breeze before working up an appetite and heading back to my mums thatched cottage garden for a BBQ and drinks.

My wedding guests, I'm sure had never been to a wedding like it, but in terms of making the most of a small wedding budget and still having a memorable day, we nailed it.

We saved money on travel (luckily we lived near the beach) transport (yay for pick-up trucks) and reception venue. With enough talented DIY photographers in the group, we had plenty of authentic natural photos to fill our wedding album.

Tropical Vintage Beach Heart Invitation SuiteThis was over twenty five years ago and while the marriage didn't last the memories of that day and my lovely guests and their gung-ho, go-along-with-it attitude has lasted.

If you're looking to save money on a wedding and yet want something memorable, don't be afraid to ditch the traditional idea of what a wedding day should entail (limos and champagne) and enjoy a fun day out at the beach, a park, a forest (depending upon where you live) and enjoy the natural beauty which is so abundant in the UK.

If you've had an out of the box wedding in the UK, drop me a line here and we will publish your story.

For low budget wedding ideas and tips check out my curated recommendations re wedding guides via my Amazon Influencer Page HERE.


Check out these modern beach themed wedding invitations, save the dates and matching stationery by talented designers over at Zazzle!


                            Tropical Vintage Beach Heart Invitation Suite