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Tuesday, 19 March 2019

Shotgun wedding before I took my husbands kidney

I secretly married my partner on the 24th June 2016. We were a perfect match!

My husband and I were in the process of him donating a kidney to me (I have PKD Polycystic Kidney Disease). Paul had to undergo all sorts of different tests, to determine if he was healthy enough to go through it all. Thankfully everything went well, we were almost a perfect match and we were going to have our operations in July.

I went to see the surgeon, but he said I needed to lose weight, at least two and a half stone. Even though we were disappointed the operation had been put back to November, we still went ahead with the wedding.

"Till death do us part"


My husband had this crazy idea that he was going to die during the operation, so he wanted us to make everything legal for the sake of our children. That monies would be safe and my mother in law Leanne wouldn't try to come in and take any money away from me and our children. The strange thing was, he almost did die due to being pumped full of Penicillin when he is allergic to it!

We need a shotgun ...


With everything that we were going through and my ill health through kidney failure, we didn't want this to become a huge stressful affair, as we were already stressed up to the eyeballs as it was. So we decided that we should only tell our children, parents and siblings what was happening. I knew that if I told one friend the news would spread like wildfire and I couldn't cope with all the potential stress that could come with it. Friends and family might be upset some had been invited and others not so we decided that if would be far simpler if we didn't invite anyone (beyond immediate family) that way, no one could be offended.

The mother-in-law wasn't invited but she came anyway!

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My mum came round the night before the 'shotgun' wedding and did my nails for me and I went to my friend's house at 7am on the day and she curled my hair for me, it looked stunning. We were married in a registry office and it was the first time I had seen my mother-in-law in 18 months, as we'd had a huge row about her saying "you're all like wolves, after my money!'' Leanne as I said earlier was a major reason for getting married, as she eat sleeps and breathes money and would throw us all under the bus for a chance at instant cash.

I wore a black and white dress which is a huge change for me, as I've lived in trousers/leggings for the past 20+years. Paul and our son wore suits and our daughter had a pretty little dress for the occasion and she was so excited about it all. Janine had desperately wanted us to marry for years and to have the same surname as us. I never changed my surname though, as I wanted to keep mine, my surname belongs to me, it's all I've ever known and I belong to no one.

The ceremony was very simple and quick, which suited us, we are not the type of people who like pomp and ceremony. Just having family there was more than enough.

All's well that ends well


We took photos outside on mobiles, so the quality wasn't that great, but I still love them. After that we all went for a meal at a restaurant and came home afterwards. After the busy day and stress of it all, I came home to sleep, as my body and mind were shattered. Almost two years have passed and believe it or not, I'm still talking to my mother in law!

If I was getting married again, I'd have a black and white wedding theme and maybe I might renew my vows one day and do it all 'proper'.

And for all those brave fellow PKD warriors out there!

Thursday, 14 March 2019

My English Beach Wedding and a pick-up truck!

Low budget wedding with a beach, bbq and a pickup truck ..not fancy but a lot of fun!

With our unpredictable weather in the UK a beach wedding can be risky business, but with some beautiful beaches matched with unrivalled lush cliff tops (we have something to thank our rain for) it's not as crazy as it seems.

Myself, I didn't go all the way with a beach wedding, in that the ceremony was held in the local registry office which was situated in a rather beautiful town hall, listed building with amazingly well kept gardens. I married back in the day when having a wedding officiant barefoot on a beach wasn't doable, at least not that I was aware of at that time. So we did the 'deed' in the registry office.

My small wedding party of about 35 guests then made our way via cars and a rusty blue pickup truck (me and my dress fitted easily into the back of it) travelled to the beach!

The weather was far from perfect with clouds and light drizzle, but our unorthodox drive and happy demeanour saw us joyously planted on the sandy/pebbled beach surrounded by lovely rock faces perfect for photos and generally having a bit of random beach fun.

We enjoyed the nature, the views, the sea breeze before working up an appetite and heading back to my mums thatched cottage garden for a BBQ and drinks.

My wedding guests, I'm sure had never been to a wedding like it, but in terms of making the most of a small wedding budget and still having a memorable day, we nailed it.

We saved money on travel (luckily we lived near the beach) transport (yay for pick-up trucks) and reception venue. With enough talented DIY photographers in the group, we had plenty of authentic natural photos to fill our wedding album.

Tropical Vintage Beach Heart Invitation SuiteThis was over twenty five years ago and while the marriage didn't last the memories of that day and my lovely guests and their gung-ho, go-along-with-it attitude has lasted.

If you're looking to save money on a wedding and yet want something memorable, don't be afraid to ditch the traditional idea of what a wedding day should entail (limos and champagne) and enjoy a fun day out at the beach, a park, a forest (depending upon where you live) and enjoy the natural beauty which is so abundant in the UK.

If you've had an out of the box wedding in the UK, drop me a line here and we will publish your story.

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